BY Jay Timms : Before you start engaging with this, I want to make something very clear. What I am about to share with you in the following series are ideas and thoughts that I have used with individual and corporate clients that have dramatically impacted the way that they feel about their lives. These people see things differently and their friends, family, and colleagues tell them that they notice that there is something different about them. A new bounce in their step, a calmness, a fresh view on concepts, etc. If you don’t want that in your life, stop reading. Do not think about what other knowledge you can gain from reading and engaging with this. People who say, “I already know that stuff” stop learning. If you are one of them, ignore this, put it down and walk away. However, if you hear a voice or have ever wondered, “Could my life be different, or maybe even better”, you are not alone. Every person has something that they can glean from this and use it to see dramatic, evolutionary growth in their lives with in very short time. And it isn’t a secret. It is simply an awareness.
I have spent my life learning the principles that I will share with you in the following series. These thoughts will be brief and intended to make you think. Some of it has been significantly researched and has be shown to work in many areas of life. Some of it is my own research. Some of it is based on what I have seen in the people and organizations that I have worked with over the years. If you choose to read this, study it, and apply it into your life, you will see dramatic changes in every aspect of your life. I personally guarantee it. I expect you will find something here to help you. Enjoy.
What do you want from your life? When you look at your life, is there anything that you feel you would want to change? Do you hear a voice inside asking, “How do I change my life/relationship/job/health to make it more fulfilling?” Most of us do. When we truly look at where we at, when we are honest with ourselves, all of us have something that we wonder what would happen if we could change “it”. Maybe we could have a stronger and more fulfilling relationship with our partner. Maybe we could find ways to increase our income. Maybe we could find ways to deal with the significant emotional events more effectively. Or maybe, just maybe, you could finally figure out a way to kick that habit that you know is killing you physically or emotionally. I want to show you something that I have recently “re-learned” that is making the bad days easier to handle and the good days fantastic. I say, “re-learned” because we have all known this at some point. We have just forgotten it somewhere.
I had a client that I was working with many years ago, and some of you may have heard me tell this story before, who really had a major impact on me. He was 14 years old and was living with an adopted family. He had seen and heard some pretty horrific things in his life, and he was one of the brightest kids I have had the pleasure of working with. Jeff (name changed) was sent to me because of a particular behaviour that he had that was having a huge impact on his life and the lives of others. It seemed that whenever he decided he didn’t want to do something, he reverted to a set of behaviours that was typical of a 5-7 year old. He would lay on the floor and talk in non-sensical babble, would kick and scream, play with “dollies”and even soiled himself on a few occasions. When the person gave up trying to get him to do what he didn’t want to do, he would sit back up, smile, and pick up his favorite book and engross himself in it. Let me come back to my friend Jeff later on.
Each of us has two part to our awareness. We are all familiar with the terms conscious and unconscious. I was asked recently in a seminar where I was speaking about this principle what the difference between “subconscious” and “unconscious” is. They are one in the same, and I choose to use the word unconscious consciously (excuse the pun). The reason being is that the word “sub”conscious somehow seems to suggest something that is below average or somehow a lower quality. “Sub”standard. “Sub”ordinate. “Sub”jugate.
The unconscious in my model of the world is actually more important than the conscious. I say this because of the different levels of activity we have in our brains. Of all of the thoughts and processes that occur in the brain, only 10% of them are we conscious of. That means that 90% of what is happening is going on behind the scenes. It is kind of like the Wizard of Oz. The magic that is going on is really being controlled by the “man behind the green curtain” who Dorothy and her companions were not supposed to notice.
Think about that for a second. 90% of what goes on in your mind, you are not aware of. How important is the unconscious? Well, when you go to sleep tonight, thank your unconscious because it is what is going to keep you alive until tomorrow.
Coming in the rest of the series:
1) How our unconscious mind filters the world around us
2) How to recognize what others are filtering and how to use that information to your advantage
3) How to ask better questions to get better answers
4) How to recognize the needs of others to deepen connections
5) How to use our filters to help us achieve more
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